Lets face it, the shidduch world is really just as shallow as the goyishe dating world, in fact it may be even more shallow considering that it’s not just about money and looks, but it’s also about religion and that tends to become a bit more shallow than a size 2 with wealthy parents. Since high school I have been warned about the goyishe ways of dating (they liked to throw the modern orthodox into that mix as well) how it’s all about money and looks and that we frume yidden go deeper, it’s true – we go much deeper, but it’s not about the soul beneath, it’s about what seminary the girl went to, where her mother went to high school and whether her father wears a black hat or just a regular old yarmulke. So no I wasn’t surprised the least when someone sent me the link to a new shidduch dating site which forces you to enter in a lot of personal information just to “request” a membership“,(the top of the page even says “the good girl store” implying anyone not accepted to their little shallow scheme as not good) which means they are profiling for the best candidates.
If you think about it, it makes perfect sense to profile and screen candidates for a new shidduch database, there are too many girls, many of those girls will move to the Upper West Side and Washington Heights where they will live a life of singledom, complaining about how there’s no one to date because they are friends with everyone – so yes there needs to be some sort of screening process. So this is kind of like Lakewood where girls are put into freezer, only here they will never be let out. I copied and pasted the form below to show you just how shallow shidduch dating has gotten…
marital status? if you put in “married” do you get redirected to shaindy.com?
It all seemed perfectly normal until I saw “what stores do you shop at”?
I clicked the link and looked at the site- are you sure its a dating site? It looked to me like it was more about selling tznius clothes or something.
Actually, I’m pretty sure it is for clothing – it has the same look/feel as Gilt Groupe (down to the coloring and layout for signup).
If they think they can perfect Gilt’s business model, let them try, thought I doubt they’ll make enough to deal with the cost of the servers…
You’re right, it is a tznius clothing store- this is the link to the ‘about us’ section on their site: http://www.estherandmiriam.com/store/about-esther-and-miriam/
and they are idiots. who is going to fill out that garbage just to look at their clothes?
Woodrow, you’re right; check the “About Us” page here.
This web site is a clothing store…u need to be accepted to go online… although it is not so usua l for a clothing store to do that, its not for shidduchim…
http://www.estherandmiriam.com/store/customer/account/login/
This web site is a clothing store…u need to be accepted to go online… although it is usual for a clothing store to do that, its not for shidduchim…
http://www.estherandmiriam.com/store/customer/account/login/
We are doomed.
Your shoe size? Your shirt size? WHAT?? What does that have to do with ANYTHING at all? My husband met pretty much none of the criteria I put into those sites, and I’m thankful that HaShem knew so much better than me (or an algorithm, for that matter).
Further, “the good girl store”? What am I, a tomato? I would like it to be noted that I COULD make a very inappropriate comment about cherries right now, but I choose not to… I’ll just let you think of it for yourself. 😉
Big feet *are* a huge marriage problem. It is a scientific fact.
Smelly feet probably pose more of a threat! 🙂
Problem or advantage? A study of shoe size and ….mmmm…. “manliness” won an Ig back in 1998
improbable.org/ig/winners/#ig1998
I think that site is a joke.
What a great dating site!
This isn’t a dating site, it’s a clothing site. http://www.estherandmiriam.com/store/about-esther-and-miriam/
Actually the post was a joke, but I guess it worked.
You neglected to mention the most important fact: Yichus. I mean, my sister was Amy Winehouse’s PR guy — just kidding.
Anyway, the tables get turned when people are in their late 30s and early 40s. At that point, jobs are more important than Yichus.
praying begging with all my might
But I know this in no way will be
You and me at once for all to see
This, this, what it could be
For this is forbbiden love that captivates me.
There’s an idea to the effect that if a joke can be taken seriously it makes a serious point. This had that effect, Shidduch dating is getting to be superficial (albeit in different ways than secular dating). “Shidduch resumes” are mocked by everyone, people are rejected not their looks or money, but because of their (lack of) Yichus, their having not gone to Yeshivah or Seminary or for silly reasons like reading classic novels.
Silly me, and all I really hope for for my sons is a kind-hearted girl with a good sense of humor and some brains. Sure there has to be attraction, but I think I’ve raised them better than for them to have some silly idea about dress size in any event. Two or three kids down the road, very few will still be a size two, but if a girl starts out as an annoying vapid twit, there’s very little hope that she’ll ever be anything else.