The recent New York Blizzard has made a lot of problems for people, folks couldn’t get to work, couldn’t get out of their cars and couldn’t get to shul, but apparently the worst of the problems may be for people in shidduchim. It was quite obvious that the snowstorm would create problems for folks trying to marry off their children, but when shadchanim started to ask about whether or not the boys were going to yeshiva during the snowstorm, it set off the storm of its own within the shidduch world.
Rumor has it, that many parents were scared to let their children attend yeshiva during the snowstorm, after seeing videos of snowplows crushing cars, they feared their children would be next, but many shadchanim wondered if their mesiras nefesh was so low that they didn’t have enough faith that God would protect those risking their lives by walking through deep slush puddles to do a mitzvah.
The snowstorm is kind of like the shoelace shidduch thing. In order to see the character of boys many parents of girls ask whether or not the boy wears shoes with laces or slip on – this tells the mothers whether or not the boy is lazy. Using slip on shoes proves the boy is lazy and is uncaring, but using laces may be seen as a waste of learning time. So to, the snowstorm has been seen as a double edged shidduch sword. On the one hand, going to yeshiva or seminary may be seen as a real risk to do Gods will, but on the other it may be seen as a foolish risk when they could have learned at home.
Unfortunately, many boys and girls did leave their homes to venture out in the snowstorm and there has been lots of shidduch loshon harah going around about who saw who outside and what exactly they were doing. Luckily the skirts best suited for snowdrift walking happen to be the frummest skirts.
The amount of hyperbole in this is mind-boggling; however, I still got a kick out of it. Nice.
I’d think a snowball fight would be great practice for shidduchim.
I was supposed to go out Sunday, the day of the blizzard, and had my date pushed off until this past Thursday because the girls father didn’t trust my driving skills in the snow.
LOL! Perhaps a walk would have been fun? You could have taken the girls parents along. 🙂
there should be a monthly list of questions shadchanim must ask. With all the new inventions one must make sure the boy has never seen an iPad, has never seen an open Facebook page, has never had sushi, or god forbid read a blog. He shouldnt even know what a blog is.
Perhaps they should start asking if he ever desired to be with a girl…if he did, perhaps he’s been contaminated. The best bochurim are perhaps asexual?
My favourite was when a woman who came to visit here was staying and I was watching children (heaps of them) for a friend.
She then passed my name along to a friend of a friend of a friend. The final friend just happened to live in CH.
Yep. As you may have guessed, they found me A Man! Unfortunately, he was found (by me) to be unsuitable as he was a Full Time Learner with 8 children and newly widowed. I was pleasant enough in my reply and proposed that he might want to try a cleaning lady and nanny for a while.
Uh….snowstorm or shitstorm. Dunno what happened but within two days of my response, Global Cooling hit New York. Oopsie!
i went out on sunday the day of the blizzard!
i cut it short tho when we reached 2-3 inches! skidding on a date is fun!!
There’s a fine line between satire and POE. Is the thing about laces true?
Sledding in skirts? We had no skirts in elementary school, but we did have homeless guys’ cardboard box houses! One box makes like 3-4 sleds. Now that Giulliani’s cleaned out the homeless from the parks though, kids do have a problem.
are you kidding? when there is that much snow it is just as tznious to wear snow pants. any skirt you wear gets frozen stiff in the oddest positions (speaking from experience!)
and as far as sledding- all you need is a few sturdy garbage bags to do the trick! cardboard gets soaked through and shreds.
What a ridiculous post post , no offense. I could think of worse things for shidduchim such as………shidduchim(seriously).Its all about saving each others asses.
If you are old enough to date, then people should trust your decision on who you should/would like to marry without parental interference.
Ha ha. I also had a date which was pushed off.