I typically show up about an hour before Shabbos when I am staying somewhere new. If I am a seasoned guest at someone’s house, the time I arrive depends on past experiences. But what I am about to discuss is something I’ve always had trouble with.
People will typically tell you to hop in the shower before all the kids and adults need to jump in, or before they run out of hot water. If the bathroom is not in my room, and they are not the type of family where I could walk around in my underwear, I never know what to do. If I take a shower what do I put on afterward?
If I put on my Shabbos clothes, it’s usually too early. If I put on the same dirty clothes, it looks weird. Sometimes I change into a hodgepodge of Shabbos and weekday clothes. I always had this issue and realized that it was kind of funny that everyone I know also thinks about it.
I thought I was the only one who worried about these things! I prefer to shower at home right before I leave since I like my own shower better. On Friday nights I don’t usually go to Shul so if my friends don’t either I just put on new clothes which aren’t really casual but not dressy enough for Shul and keep those on for dinner, like a black skirt and a shirt or something. If we were planning on going to Shul, I would prob just wear a different casual outfit anyway and change right before candle lighting.
see, now this is why i’ve always preferred to shower first before i go somewhere. and strangely, as i’ve transported my family to people’s homes for shabbat, they’ve offered for our whole family to bathe (there are six of us) and it can be seconds before shabbos is due to start, and i mean, do they expect us to be able to shower and get it all together on time? so, yeah, we shower before showing up. however, there is always the issue of having to leave the guest bedroom in the middle of the night in pj’s with the hope that i won’t run into anyone, especially bc there is no way that i’m covering my hair.
i ought to add that being as off the derech as i am, these issues are really no longer issues. : )
so, heshy, in my expert opinion, as long as you wear a sheitel, you can come to the table in your underwear. and if you need one, you can borrow mine.
you are a funny woman Rebecca ! and i say this becasue i totally relate !!!!! Staying at relatives over shabbos – in the middle of the night having to go to the bathroom – having to put on a skirt over the pajama pants, a sweatshirt over the short sleeve t-shirt, and a tichel over the hair…. well, by the time all that is done i am wide awake and probably already peed on the floor !!!!!
in any case – that was a good laugh rebecca – best one ive had all day. (possibly all week)
Solution to the problem: It’s called a robe. Does not even have to zip or button, just shrug your shoulders into it, wrap it around yourself, and tie it in the front and you are good to go. Can stumble around half asleep to the bathroom, no problem. Ditto the post shower clothing issue. A robe will take you from the bathroom to the bedroom where you can sit around until you are ready to change into your shabbos clothes. Really, what’s the problem?
well Rebbetzin,
it only took me 4.5 years of marriage to come up with that idea… the robe after the shower thingy… and it has been working splendidly 🙂
(but that isnt as funny is it ? 🙂
Just suck it up and put on your shabos shmattos
us single women and men can just bring a tie robe , but i suppose if the married women would bring a robe that ties shut that has a hood they would be covered up enough after a shower and in the middle of the night. i guess the men could use a robe with a hood in the middle of the night if they didnt want to walk to the bathroom without a kippah.
okay ladies, get out the burqas…..
yeahh…because a robe is a burqa.
great comparison.
was that sarcasm? ; )
bur·qa or bur·ka (brk)
n.
A loose, usually black or light blue robe that is worn by Muslim women, especially in Afghanistan, and that covers the body from head to toe.
[Hindi burq, from Arabic burqa’, veil, variant of burqu’, from barqa’a, to veil.]
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/burqa
This reminds me of one of my favorite jokes:
How does the Israeli Avrech get ready for Shabbos?
He takes the pen out of his pocket.
As has been said, this is the perfect situation for a robe. A Shabbos robe will blur the question of whether you’re dressed for Shabbos or not. I really sympathize that men can’t wear Shabbos robes. They certainly have their uses.
Here to ave the day: Bring along fresh undies to bathroom. After shower put on clean underwear, and weekday pant on top (pants are self-cleaning as im sure you are aware.) you then walk out in pant with clean underwear holding the dirty. TAda
Try shorts and a t-shirt and change before shabbos.
what’s with the picture? hesh is a guy, right?
I have an idea! Just wear your pyjamas when you get out of the shower and when you get to the room you’re staying in, change into your shabbos clothes
Between the shower and lighting the candles, wear “hol ha moed” style clothing. Something between Shabbat-fabulous and yom-hol casual.