I have been wondering when the frum community was going to start sending letters like this out, it seems as if the frum community has decided to ignore the growing OTD movement, because if you ignore it – it doesn’t really exist. I have also wondered how they will confront this issue. The following letter is the first I’ve received, but I’m surprised they didn’t tell me that if I donate I will be accepted into gan eden speedily.
Rabosy,
We have a new nachash in our midst, we have a slimy movement which seeks to steal away our children and turn them into goyim. For years we have known about this threat, but up until recently it seemed as if it were fully contained. We thought wrong and I’d like to take a few moments of your time to discuss what many are beginning to call the modern day haskallah, this threat is of course the Off The Derech Community. Just like the Haskallah tried and failed, the OTD community is trying to play the snake and unfortunately many of our youth have already tasted the etz hadaas. The threat of the OTD community is great and it’s one of the most tremendous nisyaon’s of our time.
It is a terrible thing to hear no chatter about this on frum website, inside frum magazines, or from heimishe community leaders. It’s as if they don’t want to admit that the problem exists and it does, just last week I met with 3 separate families where one or both of the spouses left the community, luckily we convinced them all about the truth and honesty of our heilige ways, but the damage to their children’s shidduch resumes cannot be undone.
Obviously, the internet and negative blogging is one of the culprits here. Those who suggest that the frum community, poor parenting, or a few bad apples caused droves of people to leave a path of such obvious truth and wisdom are being moser and should be dealt with. Before the internet, 1 out of 1000 even had the hava minah to leave the path, now that number is much higher and it’s got nothing to do with the few bad apples amongst us. Negative blogs seeking to destroy the Jewish people, the secular media’s fascination with those who leave the path and then flaunt their sins, and the rampant materialism of secular culture are all to blame. The loss of many gedolim in the past few years has also led many of our brethren astray. When will we wake up and smell the coffee?
When will the klal yisroel and its leaders realize that their focus on outreach needs to change to in reach. We understand the pain that many of these OTDers must be feeling in order to deny the truth and convince themselves that eating treife, breaking shabbos, and denying the existence of God, a pain so great that they feel the need to constantly show off all of the fictional laws they are breaking. In many cases, the OTDer is obviously full of the pintele yid for they cannot seem to just let go of their former lifestyles. Many OTDers still eat heimishe food, date heimishe women, or speak yiddish. How hard can it be for us to get them back on the path? If we just focused some of the resources we have? Isn’t an OTD Chassidishe kid worth more to us than some safek geirus Russian kid?
Please help us save our own precious neshamos, before we try to bring in Russians and College Kids.
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that fact that you need to worry about your marriage resume might be a good clue as to why people are leaving.
your problem is just that ODT people exist….. it’s not like they go to colleges and recruits your kids the way chabad does. you seem upset that people can leave the fold and not be miserable because it’s tempting to people who might be unhappy living haluchicly?
Heshy couldn’t care less I think he’s making fun of the types of response that we otd ppl are receiving from the frum community, unless you can just mind your own business and focus on your own practice it’s going to be a hard thing to fight
There is an OTD community on the west coast, they just don’t tend to know what OTD stands for.
OTD movement? Are they recruiting people, because I certainly didn’t get that memo.
You must be living under a rock then, it isn’t hard to recruit ppl
From the title, I thought this was going to be about a OTD guy who rachmono litzlon is becoming frum again, and needs to be saved.
You should write about that next time.
Besides for the hotties, great food, and rioting, I’m not sure why anyone would come back from the dark side.
Well, that is something. One of my Orthoprax friends once remarked to me that a benefit of remaining frum is that he’d get a much better looking girl with his shidduch credentials than outside the community.
I hope Heshy writes about that one
Well, your friend is an ASSHOLE. This “much better looking girl” he is referring to, while still (I hope) hypothetical, is a PERSON. She has the right to know who she is marrying.
Another thing about your friend; frum girls will KNOW his true worth, you think 19 year old frum girls don’t know that money, looks, brains, a heart and not being a boring-ass LOSER are more desirable than some average looking asshole with very little money he can truly call his own (as in, he went to work and earned it)?
What PLANET are you living on?
Sincerely, a frum girl who has many frum female friends who are dating
got your goat, didn’t I.
Well, technically your friend did. IF I ever meet someone who admits to doing this, I will physically hurt him and defame him. I know I sound unpleasant, but IRL I am one of those people everyone knows so I am confident that I can get a decent rumor going. My friends are beautiful, GENUINE people and deserve to not waste their best years on someone you’ve described as having sociopathic tendencies (Objectifying someone and knowingly deceiving them to project a certain front to the world to the objectified person’s detriment is a cornerstone of sociopathy)….that is, what people like you would consider their best years.
Yes, I’m biased; I think all my friends are beautiful. You may disagree.
you need to relax
You want to fund a vacation, a trip to a beach with 4 square feet of sand without garbage, or even a barbeque? I’ll take it! You’re very kind, thank you.
I like how money is the first adjective of desirability.
I personally picked my guy out based on looks when I was a dumb girl in high school, and got lucky when he turned out to be nice and long afterwards chose a lucrative career path. I’m just saying that when I speak with my shidduch-crowd friends, they always mention money first. ALWAYS. These people are on track to earn their degrees and want someone who has equal earning power to theirs to be sure he isn’t a gold-digger.
True, frum Jewish males all look like inbred rats or frogs.
Why you need a resume to meet a potential spouse is just absurd and totalitarian. People behave and have likes and dislikes on a spectrum. Real world people are not absolute matches like puzzle pieces.
Gotta keep the matchmakers in business though and pretend that spouses do go together like puzzle pieces that only the matchmakers are qualified to put together.
You think it is to keep the matchmakers in business? Why would you suppose something so completely idiotic? Why would you speak to your made up stupid reason instead of the much more logical real reasons.
Have you ever been on Jdate or Ok Cupid, the shidduch resume thing spans across all cultures, it’s just in different form.
Or those hot asian dating sites on my sidebar
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You can’t compare shidduch dating to the outside world dating sites because
1) the genders aren’t segregated in the outside world
2) the dating sites don’t ask nonsense questions the way shidduch workers do.
Have you ever been on a dating website? *All* they do is ask nonsense questions.
Because Jews marrying Asians nowadays isn’t ‘really’ intermarriage.
Which organization/who sent out this letter? Was it an actual snail-mail letter or an email? Please, details.
It’s not actually a real letter that went out; I believe it was made up
Hey, if they want to try and save my neshama they can pay back some of the tens of thousands of dollars I was deceived into paying.