I’m not sure how they do it in Baltimore (the person who sent this to me informed me that the kollel has a policy against mentioning women’s names), but when I was in yeshiva and someone got engaged, they always used to say who that person was engaged to. I totally understand that frum publications can’t show pictures of women, lest we have some sort of hirhurim, but I guess we’ve become so tznius that names now cause us to jizz in our pants. What’s next? Maybe we could stop mentioning the girl on wedding invites…maybe the women won’t be invited to the bris for fear that women may be in the same room as a penis that is not their husbands chas v’shalom.
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I think they forgot to blur out Hannah Storch at the bottom of the invite…
Clearly, it’s loshon hora to tell people your new daughter in law is marrying into a sexist family.
Maybe the solution is to abort all female fetuses. End of problem!
Gods below! Are frum goolies on such hair triggers that mentioning the bride will make them spooge themselves into perdition? They have medicines for that these days, psychiatric ones. And self control.
and maybe the guy who typed the note just didnt know the name of the kallah?
I am SOOOOOOOO hoping this is the case – we are supposed to have a zchus on people. Or as we say in my house- FIRST a fair trial- THEN we hang ’em high!
wow…. you have nothing else to write about do you… it is very common in the yeshiva world to let the guys know someone is getting married and they simply don’t know the name of the girl.
I think even the chosson doesn’t know the name of the kallah!!
Nothing to do with forgetting the name… the kollel where that is posted has a policy against mentioning female names on their notices.
So what do they write on the schedule for Purim? Megillas Mordechai?
Megillas Achashveirosh’s Kallah.
Haha!
What about about our four matriarchs? Shall they be erased from the Torah in the name of modesty?
Trust me, if there was ever a place outside of San Francisco where frum Jews lag behind in the latest frumkeiten, it’s Baltimore. My guess is that they simply didn’t know the Kallahs name.
Guys, this is from the announcements they tape up on the front door of the Community Kollel. I know the guy who types up the announcements. He just didn’t know her name when he typed it up.
if the kollel doesn’t have the common decency to find out the kallah’s name, they shouldn’t even put up the announcement. pretty lame excuse.
Yes the should definitely put it up. It doesn’t really make a difference if the other side isn’t from that community. People want to hear about it asap
@ chanan
Your 100% right
As an aside, I love the way that Heshy’s partnership with 4torah.com leads to statements like the one at the end of this post: “Find more tznius madness on 4torah.com”
OK, let’s think of other ones, like: “Find more ‘gay bashing’ on 4torah.com”.
There are much funnier ones. Tznius madness is tame. You should see the bottom line on some of his other posts.
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If you read the Jewish Press, take a look at Rabbi Gershon Tannenbaum’s “My Machberes” column. Take note of how he lists upcoming marriages.
The honored chasan is usually a prominent rebbe’s son. The kallah is usually the nameless daughter of a prominent rebbe.
It has nothing to do with frumkit. The person who wrote it didn’t know the kallas name but wanted to announce the simcha !!
There’s no excuse for BAD MANNERS!
To those who claim that the person typing it just didn’t know the kallah’s name:
In less “frum” and even secular AND non-Jewish social circles, it would be considered rude and unacceptable for the person typing the note to not have taken the initiative to contact the family and obtain not only the kallah’s name but also the name of her parents (and grandparents, if living) who should also be congratulated regardless of what community they live in.
Just because they might not live in the same community, doesn’t mean that people in that community don’t know the families living in other communities! How small and narrow minded! And rude – did I mention rude?!
What’s next? Banishing the bride from the actual wedding? Maybe she can be married in absentia.